Modesty and Humility

Our latest training theme is one of my favorites because it so nicely defines what being a Black Belt is all about.

Let’s take a look at the first part of the saying “I’m not better than anyone else”.  Ultimately, the goal of karate is “perfection of the human character”.  Through the ages it has never been about fighting.  It has always been about the development of courage, discipline, character and then standing up for and protecting yourself and others.  At the very top of the list of these character traits is COURTESY and RESPECT.  Courtesy and respect are, and will always be, the first and most important lesson of karate. 

A critical element of courtesy and respect is MODESTY and HUMILITY.  How refreshing is that in our “it’s all about me” and self promotion world?  It really is all about how you make those around you feel.

According to the Webster Dictionary, Modesty is “the quality of not being too proud or confident about yourself or your abilities”.  Black Belts never boast or tell others about how good they are.  Their actions speak for themselves. They never brag or put down others to promote themselves.

According to the Webster Dictionary, Humility is “freedom from pride or arrogance:  the quality or state of being humble”.  I think it really is about not taking yourself too seriously and the ability to laugh at yourself!  Black Belts are always humble in victory and gracious in defeat.

I will write about the second part of this saying next week but here is what you can do as a parent at the dojo:

1. This one is easy. Make sure every single student greets you with the training theme. We get what we tolerate!

2. “Be the change you want to see in your child.”  Are you modest and humble?  Just be a little more aware of the language you use when talking about others.  Your kids copy you.

3. Just start a conversation with your child. A good way to start is asking “Do you know anyone that brags about themselves?” Or, “Do you know anyone that is a sore loser?”

And remember, “You can’t not teach”!

“Prepare the Child for the Road, not the Road for the Child.”

See you at the dojo,

Sensei